As alcoholics and addicts we share some of the same difficulties. The propensity we have to complicate things is amazing. Sobriety is easier when we don't over analyze things and just go with the program the way it was laid out and the way our sponsors ask us to do it.
There is one simple way in order to do this. It has been recommended thousands of times and has kept millions sober. First, we don't drink or use no matter what. We should read the literature and talk to our sponsors about it and how it pertains to our lives. We should pray. Even if you have trouble believing in something greater than yourself, pray anyway. Ask that power for help. Lastly, we should go to meetings. The more meetings we attend the better.
This formula will work if you allow it to.